Ok, listen. Stop saying you can't. Stop saying you give up. Stop asking people to hit you or kill you. Just stop! You don't have to take action yet if you're not ready to yet, but...
STOP fucking saying those things right now!! It's getting you all literally no where and I'm tired of seeing it. If it takes me coming across as an asshole to give you that slap across the face that you need to come back to reality, then so be it. I'm willing to look like the bad guy if it even just brings this one step closer to being resolved.
Again, if neither of you are ready to actually start fixing things yet, fine. That shouldn't be rushed, or else it might just make things worse, but
STOP saying you can't!
STOP saying you give up!
STOP asking for death or to be killed!
The people who this concerns to know who they are. If you don't know why I'm posting this then it probably doesn't concern you, so feel free to ignore, and I'd rather not be asked over and over what this is about either.